Nothing lasts. If you are feeling joyful today, it won’t last. If you are unhappy, it won’t last too. So don’t get carried away when you are happy and don’t be dragged in the mud when life kicks you around. However, when you are in the gutter, at the back of your mind, you need to keep telling yourself that this won’t last. I will be back from it stronger, faster, and wiser. Life can break me, and it can either leave a mark of victory or defeat. I choose how the scar will appear on my skin.
8 Worldly concerns
As per Buddhism, we are affected by the 8 worldly concerns. We are constantly dragged by opposite forces, and we should be aware and be wise to stay in the middle of them. What are they?
Happiness and suffering
The problem is that we always want to be happy and never want to suffer. Life doesn’t work like this, and you get both along the way. However, if you act in unhealthy ways, you mostly get suffering. Hence, choose wisely how you act. It’s true that life is impermanent but it shouldn’t make us life in a less responsible way as this will lead to disaster too. We should realize that each action has its effects on our lives.
Fame and Insignificance
We want people to love us and sometimes we act in ways or say things so that we get appreciated and are drawn by fame. We also don’t want to live an insignificant life and sometimes end up chasing more and more objects, wealth, and other material things to be significant without these necessarily bringing true significance to our lives.
Praise and Blame
We crave for praises and don’t want to get blamed for mistakes we do. Getting praised isn’t a bad thing if we are doing something good. However, a fake mechanism may be created where we praise someone to get praised back. I please your ego so that you please mine. We need to be very aware of that and we need to own our mistakes so that we learn and grow out of them.
Gain and Loss
We want to get more and more things to feel more valuable, significant, important, and so on. We don’t want to lose things as we will feel less significant. Ultimately, life works in such a way that we lose and gain things regularly. It’s an ever-ending loop which we must accept.
You can choose to have the observer approach where you observe what is happening both inside and outside of you and make the best decisions for you and others. Otherwise, you can think that everything is happening to you and choose to be the victim. We should be wise and choose a framework for seeing the world which is beneficial to us and others.
Attachment and letting go
We cling to things, moments, or people because they give us a sense of comfort, importance, and stability. However, in a world of impermanence, attachment is an illusion.
Fantasy and Responsibility
We expect things to be in a certain way. We expect people to behave in a certain way and we expect something, or someone will come into our lives and make things better. Nothing of that sort will happen and it’s just another illusion in our minds. We need to take full responsibility and do our very best with what life throws at us, whether good or bad. It’s our life and we need to accept it fully in all its forms.
Joy in misery
While fighting demons, you can become one. Just like in the dark knight it’s mentioned that you either die a hero or live long enough to see yourself become the villain. This is a warning that being exposed to the harshness of life for too long may make us become the villain as it’s very easy to give up and become the very thing you hate because you see no hope. One way of cruising through misery is having a sense of humor. So, laugh at your misery. Laugh at yourself. If you can laugh at what happens to you, you will be able to bear the pain more and uplift others.
Wishing you strength and resilience,