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An introduction to Mindfulness

Getting back your balance

Dealing with thoughts

The main idea of Mindfulness meditation is about observing thoughts. We do not try to control, analyse or judge the thoughts that go through our mind. Instead, we observe them for exactly what they are. Thoughts do not control or define us. We learn to look at thoughts in a detached way. Most of the time, we think that thoughts are part of us and define us. What if I tell you that they are not?

Most of the thoughts that come to our minds come from whatever we are reading, watching or what people have been telling us. They can be part of our belief system, our upbringing or even education. Do they really define who we are? Are they part of our authentic self? Once we realise that thoughts are not exactly part of our inner being, we view them as just thoughts and we are freed from them in a certain way. It’s the best moment as a practitioner when students realise this the first time.

We do not ignore the thoughts though, no matter how disturbing they can be. In Mindfulness, we do not say that all is love and light and put things under the carpet. Well, it’s not what I teach anyway. We welcome the distracting thoughts, sensations or physical discomfort we are experiencing in the present moment and accept them.

We do so because whenever we resist emotions we are feeling in the body, we make things worse. It is totally fine to be angry, sad, vulnerable and so on. Acknowldeging how we are feeling helps us to know where we need to work on and gives guidance on where the knots are so that we are work on them.

In our my next blog, I am going to explore ways of increasing awareness through deep breathing and teach some simple techniques you can try on a daily basis.

Let’s redefine Happiness

Let’ just be happy

Happiness is the one thing everyone is chasing whether it’s through objects, relationships, job titles, external validation, our bank accounts and the list is endless. However, what if we rethink of it in the following way:

We don’t become happy when we acquire. We become happy when we stay significant and let go of desire.

We dont become happy when we feel superior. We become happy by being a great contributor.

We don’t become happy when we criticise. We become happy when we help people rise.

So, let’s redefine happiness. We just live once and happiness is the one thing which everyone wants and deserves to experience.

Take care, Geerish.

How to overcome the darkest moments of your life?

Your darkest moments shape you.

My own resilience as a person and my willingness to uplift and influence people comes from my time battling illness, depression and manipulation and one thing I can say is that those experiences either break or make you and you do become someone who was made out of these experiences.  In this article, I am going to talk about some people who went through some dark times, study their Psyche and analyze how they overcame their tragedies.

The first case we are going to study is Victoria Milligan, a mother who lost her husband and eight-year-old daughter on a speedboat accident in May 2013.  In the same accident. she got her left leg amputated and her son who survived had to go through 15 operations to save his left leg.

What saved her?

  1.  Support from family, friends and therapists.

Victoria got help from her closed ones and had guidance from professional practitioners too.

To overcome painful events, we need to get maximum support from our close ones and professionals.  In some parts of the world, mental health is still not taken seriously or there might be a stigma attached to it.  However, no one can function properly if the mental state is not fine and it’s absolutely fine to talk about it with your closed ones or get professional help from therapists who are qualified and have the experience helping people overcome traumatic events.

2. Natural disposition to talk about one’s emotions to others

Victoria talked about how she felt without any embarrassment or fear of being judged. I think that it’s very important to find someone who is a good listener and at the same time someone who will not judge whatever you are sharing.  There are actually two sides to this one as only you should get the courage to overcome the tragedy but you should also not refuse the support that you may get from those people who are close to you and actually care about you.  One danger of living through tragedy is closing on oneself.  No one will heal if we don’t take the thing which is eating us out and we shouldn’t be ashamed and feel embarrassed by what we lived.  You will notice that in the intro, I bluntly wrote what I went through because I hardly care about what people might think about it.  It’s the truth and I don’t mind sharing such truths if they inspire people

3. Knowing how much love there was in your life before the tragedy

Victoria said that she has no regrets. She doesn’t regret not being able to say goodbye to her daughter and husband a last time.  She said that they knew how much she loved them and that is all that mattered.  When a person dies, the relationship with the person doesn’t end.  It just changes.  The human brain is wired in a way that it will remember the sad and painful parts of the past.  However, it doesn’t need to be like that.  What is important is the quality of the moments which were spent with your closed ones.  There should be no regret felt if you have lived your life fully. 

4. You can’t get over grief.  You get used to its presence.

As per Victoria, the pain never goes.  You just learn how to live with it.  I believe that the most used phrase that “time will heal everything” is very much overrated.  What happens is that we change ourselves in such a way that we learn how to cope with the loss but the loss is real and we will always feel something is missing.  However, what happens is that we learn to live with the emotion and we don’t let the tragedy consume our lives.

5. Set small achievable goals and be in the moment

Victoria really took life slowly after her loss.  She said that she was not living each day as it comes but living each hour of the day as it comes.  She wasn’t overthinking what the future was going to bring and she focused on small aims like saving his son’s legs, learning to walk with a Prosthetic or going to the girls’ sports day. She looked forward to each event as they came and made the most out of them.  This is a very important lesson as we are currently going through the Covid-19 virus spread and there may be a tendency to just focus on when everything will be normal rather than take each day as it comes and be grateful for still being alive.

I hope that you found the article interesting. If you’d prefer the same content condensed in a podcast, please refer to the following link:

Listen to “How To Overcome The Darkest Moments Of Your Life?” on Spreaker.

Developing Wisdom

Developing Wisdom daily

Along with ethical conduct and Mental discipline, developing Wisdom is an important aspect towards enlightenment.

Mental discipline allows the mind to settle and makes us become more aware. Being aware of one’s thoughts and emotions helps us to understand ourselves and others better.

Once this is attained, we understand deeper truths like Impermanence and no self. In the process, we develop the ability to challenge everything in our quest for knowledge and understanding, even our own beliefs and inner conditioning. We explore in more detail in the podcast attached.

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/21592662

Lots of love,

Geerish.

Ethical Conduct:Sila

The perfect man

Sila means the ethical conduct and is one of the pillars of Buddhism. The ethical conduct can be broken into right speech, right action and right livelihood. All the three of them are components of the eight fold path.

In the podcast below, the importance of balancing the heart properties with the mind properties in order to create the perfect human being is discussed.

Much love,

Geerish.

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/21515723

The Origin of over attachment

Holding too tightly

If a caregiver isn’t always present for a child, the latter can possibly develop an anxious attachment style. In this case, as an adult, the person may think that it’s important to cling to others for dear life or else, the person will lose the people around himself/herself. The following podcast goes over this aspect. https://www.spreaker.com/episode/21214106

Much love,

Geerish.

Fear of Abandonment: Absence of parents or primary caregiver.

Our own Insecurities as adults can potentially be traced from early childhood. It can go as far as the time when our primary caregiver, most of the time, our parents had to be there for us.

In this podcast, we explore how the absence of our primary caregiver forms the belief that people will never be there for us. As adults, this gets deeply into our psyche and we end up not trusting people and thinking that people do not care and it’s not worth trusting them. Hence, we sabotage our relations and happiness in this way.

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/21182856

Much love,

Geerish.

Self Sabotage:Fear Immersion

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/21360642

Fear prevents us from reaching our full potential. In the previous series of podcasts, we traced back the fear from early childhood experiences and also explored the effects of PTSD in creating a fearful persona. In this podcast, we explore the most common fears experienced by us and we explain a great technique called Aware which will help you to overcome fear when you experience it. I hope that you find the information very useful.

Lots of love,

Geerish.

The Tibetan 9 purifying breaths

Breathing cleanses the mind

The 9 purifying breaths

The 9 purifying breaths is an ancient Tibetan breathing method which focuses on the release of anger, attachment and inner insecurities.  As the right action is one of the pillars of the eightfold path in Buddhism, this practice is essential if one wants to adhere to the eightfold path.

How do we practice it?

  1.  Find a quiet and comfortable place and sit with your back straight.
  2. Take a few deep breaths to calm the body and visualize a red energy channel on your left, a white channel on your right and a blue channel in the middle.
  3. Place your thumb on your ring finger for both hands.
  4. Put your right ring finger on your right nostril and inhale through the left visualizing the left red channel going up to the crown.  Use your left ring finger to press on the left nostril and release through your right nostril. Repeat 3 times.  Feel the anger getting released as you breathe out.  The breath out is more forceful in the later stages.
  5. Block the left nostril with your left ring finger and breathe through your right nostril visualizing the white energy channel going up from your right and as you exhale the red channel goes down from the crown.  Feel the attachment getting out of the body.
  6. With both nostrils, take three deep breaths in and out visualizing the blue channel going up and down.  Release your inner insecurities as you breathe out during the last three breaths.

Please find a video below where I explain how it’s done.

Lots of love,

Geerish.

Self Sabotage: Living with PTSD

Trapped inside your head

The podcast talks about what it is like to live with PTSD and constantly believe that something bad may happen. It also talks about coping skills one can develop to get out of the vulnerable state.

Listen to “Self Sabotage series: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder” on Spreaker.

Much love,

Geerish.

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